Archive for category approach anxiety
Charla’s Advice to Wall Flower Guys
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, night clubs, opening a conversation on April 16, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
If you could give the “wallflower” guys one piece of advice in a nightclub setting, what would it be?
Truly enjoy yourself, no matter what. It’s really nice to see a guy who is having a good time, not worrying if he’s going to score that night or not. Laughter and smiles speak volumes.
- Charla (29)
Charla’s View of the Dance Floor
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, flirting, night clubs on April 15, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
Tell us your thoughts & experiences of the dance floor at a night club.
It makes me laugh to see guys who can’t dance and try hard to impress the girls. On the other hand, I’m always glad to see guys who can’t dance but don’t care because they are truly having a good time. The difference between a guy who does it to impress and a guy who does it because he genuinely enjoys it are very obvious, and kudos to the latter ones.
Now, on the grinding. I can’t even begin to explain how much I hate that. I’m pretty sure I even called the club’s security on a grinder once. It’s entirely disrespectful, tasteless and the number one way to get me to dislike you from the start.
- Charla (29)
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Charla’s View on Approaches
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, basic conversation, flirting, opening a conversation, small talk on April 14, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
What would you consider the BEST thing guys do when approaching a woman.
Doing so in a natural way, maybe with a nice compliment. Extra points if he compliments something that required more attention of him. For example, instead of just complimenting a girl’s eyes (too typical and un-original), maybe compliment the pendant she is wearing on her necklace. There’s usually a story behind the accessories girls wear, and this could be a great conversation-starter which shows a genuine interest in her and her attention to detail.
- Charla (29)
Jessica’s Thoughts on Bad Approaches
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, basic conversation, flirting, seductive small talk on April 9, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
What would you consider the WORST thing guys do when approaching a woman of interest?
Again usually a number of things men seem to fault, like coming on too strong. Confidence is sexy but too much seems creepy and desperate. If a guy can hold a conversation, get the girl to laugh and attract her intellectually hes got usually a better chance then just buying her a drink and drowning her in pathetic pick up lines.
-Jessica
Jessica’s Approach Tip…
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety on April 8, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
What would you consider the BEST thing guys do when approaching a woman.
Well most girls like to be pampered so buying a drink or a flower to some girls works out, but it does get old.
In my opinion i think its best when a can be be himself, walk up to a girl hes interested in, tell her how he feels ‘ i saw you from across the room and had to come let you know you caught my eye’ then taking that into a conversation that the woman can relate to.
Flattery doesnt work everytime but sometimes is a good icebreaker.
Getting a woman to laugh is sometime the best thing a guy can do.
-Jessica
A Thought on Approaching…
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, points to ponder on April 5, 2010
Approaching is not about over coming fear, having the right opener or doing things right.
It’s being true to yourself and to what you want.
If you want her, then keep your word and at least give yourself the opportunity to get her.
She certainly can reject you, but all that matters is that you keep your word by approaching.
INTEGRITY is the bottom line.
By DRH
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aggressive sexual approaches
Posted by tannus in approach anxiety, opening a conversation, quick tips on April 4, 2010
We’ve been out “interviewing” dozens of women – getting advice straight from those that want to get to know guys like you. Over the next few weeks, we’ll be posting what these girls have had to say.
What would you consider the WORST thing guys do when approaching a woman?
Approaching in an aggressively sexually-oriented fashion is a no-no!
In my eyes, they come across as desperate, lame and sleazy when they do.
A subtle, sexual approach is fine – that demonstrates confidence and seductiveness.
-Caroline (31)


